We’ve all felt the agony of failure, stagnation and feeling stuck before in our lives, whether it’s with our careers, relationships or personal health. It can be frustrating and disheartening when you don’t feel like you’re making any progress, especially when you feel like things were going well before they took an unexpected turn.
Life is full of challenges and failures, big and small. You’ve had some good days, and bad days. You’ve had some great successes, and some humbling defeats. But it all evens out in the end; every day brings with it triumphs and trials, victories and defeats, peaks and valleys. That makes success in business so difficult to achieve you can work so hard to achieve your dreams, but the world will always find ways to knock you down. Failure seems inevitable sometimes, but that doesn’t mean you can’t rise again and again until you reach the top.
There are many reasons why someone might fail to achieve success at what they set out to do. It could be due to many factors, including bad luck, lack of resources or not having the right tools and information needed to succeed in the first place. Speaking to a spiritual healer can help understand what the reason is for your failures. Whatever the reason may be, the key is not to let failure hold you back from achieving success in the future.
There are some simple steps you can take to turn your situation around and achieve success after failure or stagnation has taken hold of your life or business. Follow these steps and you’ll find yourself back on the path towards prosperity and happiness once again.
1. Understand fear
The most important step you can take towards achieving success is to understand fear. Fear exists as a motivator, but that’s not always a good thing. In some cases, it can prevent us from taking necessary risks that would ultimately lead us down an untraveled path towards our goals. Finding out what truly scares you is one of the best ways of getting past hurdles you’re facing in life. When you know what makes your blood boil (or run cold), there’s no longer anything holding you back from doing something about it—either avoiding or confronting it head-on.
2. Realize you’re not alone
Nobody’s perfect. Everyone fails from time to time. The key is knowing how to handle those failures so that you can keep moving forward with your goals. For example, maybe you failed a test or lost a client but realize it’s not something that would prevent you from achieving your goals in general—so it’s a minor setback rather than a major failure. Alternatively, if your failure is a sign of larger problems or something inherent in your personality (which could mean it would be impossible for you to achieve those goals), reassess whether or not what you want is attainable for you.
3. Take stock of where you are now
This might sound like a no-brainer, but it’s important. If you’re feeling stuck or stagnate in your life, work or personal goals then you need to take stock of where you are now. This involves asking yourself some tough questions about what it is that you want from your life and what’s really holding you back from getting there. Don’t go into this process thinking that all of your dreams are unattainable; instead work on assessing why you haven’t been able to achieve them thus far and how your situation can be changed so that it becomes possible for success to happen.
4. Don’t feel threatened by failure
One of our biggest challenges is our tendency to get stuck in victim thinking. We become angry or frustrated when things don’t work out, blaming ourselves for what happened instead of seeing it as a learning experience. Our self-worth becomes wrapped up in our accomplishments. Instead of trying to fix ourselves, we need to feel comfortable failing—and even expect it—whenever we try something new. That way, we can celebrate our successes without being threatened by failure. The goal is growth and fulfillment, not perfection; failing helps us understand how and why things didn’t work out so that we can fix them later on.
5. Develop healthy habits to stay healthy
It can be easy to get into a habit of eating poorly or exercising too little. To stay healthy while learning how to succeed you need to develop healthy habits that will help keep you energized over time. A few habits that are good for achieving success include; exercising regularly (going for a walk every day), eating enough fiber, drinking plenty of water (instead of sugary drinks), and getting enough sleep. The small effort it takes each day to maintain these practices is well worth it in terms of your health—and if your new healthy habits allow you to achieve success as well, even better.
6. Give yourself a break
There’s a difference between getting depressed about your situation and allowing yourself some downtime after a setback. The more you beat yourself up over it (I should have done better/faster/more), the less likely you are to be motivated. The sooner you can forgive yourself for not being perfect at everything, you’ll give yourself permission to start again. And that’s when real success begins. After all, if there are no second chances in life what's our motivation for doing anything?
7. Start with a small step
When you’re faced with a long road ahead of you, it can be easy to get overwhelmed. Look at it as a challenge or adventure—something exciting to look forward to. When faced with a goal that seems out of reach, break it down into smaller goals or steps and take them one at a time. For example, if your dream is graduate school but you don’t have enough money saved up for tuition yet, start by researching scholarships and grants. Then work on filling in any knowledge gaps that might be holding you back. By breaking your big goal into smaller pieces that seem more doable and less intimidating, you can make progress toward success without feeling so overwhelmed.
8. Be consistent
Many people give up on goals because they lose focus or become inconsistent. One of my favorite quotes from Napoleon Hill is: Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve. This concept goes beyond what we tell ourselves about success; if you want something bad enough you have to go for it every day. The more consistently you act in accordance with your goal (whether it be daily or yearly), will determine whether you are successful.
9. Take inspiration from failures that led to success
It’s easy to overlook failures or setbacks when trying to overcome stagnation. But your failures might provide you with important clues about how not to succeed (or how things won’t work). As Mark Twain once said, Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by those you did do. So throw off your bowlines. Sail away from safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream and Discover. To achieve success, learn from past mistakes so they don't repeat themselves; figure out why previous efforts have failed; identify weak spots; and try a different approach until you find one that works for you.
10. Create a progress chart or log
Keeping a personal log of your goals is one of the best ways to identify obstacles and assess your progress. Make a list of all your goals for each day or week, as well as any steps or actions you can take toward achieving them. Log every step you take until you've achieved each goal. Writing down specific progress gives you a concrete way to look back on your progress (or lack thereof). You'll also see areas in which you need improvement—and that's valuable information that can help keep you on track.
11. Celebrate every small victory
Make a big deal out of every little win, no matter how small. When you fail or fall short of your expectations -- as we all do -- don’t hide your disappointment. Instead, start reflecting on what went right instead of what went wrong. Practice gratitude and set new goals based on positive results instead of negative outcomes. It’s easy to become discouraged when things don’t go according to plan; it’s harder but more rewarding when you reflect on all that has gone well in life so far.
12. Get support from friends and family
The thought of starting over again after experiencing a big failure can be very daunting. However, surrounding yourself with family and friends who have your best interests at heart is one of the best ways to overcome that fear. They’ll help push you through when you’re most tempted to give up on your goal. Additionally, they’ll provide positive feedback when you need it most, remind you about what’s important (your true values), and help restore your faith in yourself after a particularly challenging failure or setback.
13. Seeking the help of a life coach or spiritual coach
Coaches can help you stay motivated when things get tough, they can inspire you when your energy is low and they can bring outside perspective when you need it most. They know all of your weaknesses—and if you’re truthful, they might even help you develop new strengths. If that sounds appealing but scary, don’t worry: The key is to find a coach who respects you as an individual. Good coaches are patient listeners; good coaches are open-minded; good coaches won’t push or prod or force their opinions on you. You should feel comfortable sharing with them anything that’s on your mind without fear of judgment or reprisal. Feel Free to contact EnergyLuck for life coaching services.